Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities. It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense.
“A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the person who contains himself when he is angry.” [Al-Bukhari; Book 47, No. 47.3.12]
The wise man should keep his calm and keep his thought in positive manner.
Abu Hurairah, radiyallahu ‘anhu, reported that a man said to the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam:“Advise me! “The Prophet said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.” [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 8 No. 137]
Narrated ‘Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakra: Abu Bakr wrote to his son who was in Sijistan: Do not judge between two persons when you are angry, for I heard the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, saying: “A judge should not judge between two persons while he is in an angry mood.” [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 9, No. 272]
Apologize is always a hardest thing to do. We always forget to apologize and say sorry when we do a mistake. We always think it was a grave mistake if do mistake and say sorry. This is a negative though of people who do not understand the teaching of Islam.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once said, “Every son of Adam makes mistakes, and the best of those who make mistakes are those who repent“. (At-Tirmidhi)
Before we repent, we some make our self calm and steady. In Islam, there was many way to make our self calm and keep the mind on top of anger.
Narrated Atiyyah as−Sa’di: AbuWa’il al−Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as−Sa’di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution. [Abu Daud; Book 41, No. 4766]
Narrated AbuDharr, the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, saying:“When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.” [Abu Daud; Book 41, No. 4764]
When we speak to others, some time we do become arrogant, proud, which I did it today. When we turn our way from God and his prophet, something bad always happen. We always ask people to do good deed but sometime we forget we do not do the same. God always show our mistake through others , it may in form of advice/action from our friends, relative or even our own enemy. It just depend us to understand the meaning of His (God) message.
“And say to My servants (that) they should (only) speak that which is the best; (Because) Devil verily sows dissensions among them. Surely, Devil is an open enemy to man.” [Surah Al-Isra' (17) : Ayah 53]
May God keep sending His message to me today, tomorrow and forever.