Bullying–Words can kill

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As students are heading back to school for the start of a new year of learning, for many, the focus is beyond the scope of the textbook.

Every day, 160,000 kids miss school because they’re afraid of being bullied, according to the National Crime Prevention Council. And when they don’t skip school, students say they walk school halls with feelings of desperation, fear and hopelessness — a constant battle that one mother told CBS correspondent Tracy Smith that she sees just dropping her son Johnny off at school.

“I felt like every day, I was sending him off to war,” Lisa Cagno told Smith.

CBS’ 48 Hours aired a special this week, Bullying: Words Can Kill, that featured several students from Birchwood Middle School in North Providence, R.I. CBS followed the students for six months to tell their stories and to delve into the school’s efforts to combat bullying.

“You can be bullied for anything nowadays,” Johnny Cagno tells Smith in the segment. “You’re judged, constantly, whether it’s your orientation, your clothing, how you look. You know, everything.”

Studies have shown that beyond the emotional trauma associated with being bullied, students who report being bullied see lower GPAs, especially high achieving blacks and Latinos. Most recently, New Jersey instituted in its schools what is considered to be the toughest anti-bullying law in the country, and its measures have garnered both praise and criticism.

In addition to the full segment above, 48 Hours has added several Web extras that were not aired, focusing even more on the students that are featured in the special. Smith also includes a piece on what she was able to learn about bullying by working on the piece for 48 Hours.

“If these children had knives in their hands, she would’ve been dead a long time ago,” one mother says in the piece as she reflects on her daughter being bullied. “The words can kill.”


My response:

Something wrong with this society in the film. What their government have been doing? The common sense have gone wrong. I dare to critic because it not happen to me.

Seriously, someone need to stand up and rectify the injustice happen in society.

Truly, God does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11)

The prophet have said:

“A parent can give a child no greater gift than beautiful manners.” [al-Hakim]


‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners, so long as they develop a sense of understanding.” (Al-Bukhari)


“Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.”(Al-Bukhari)


“The most complete in faith are those best in character and kindest to their families.” [at-Tirmidhi]


“If one has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer.” (Al-Bukhari)

and many more.

This is films is reminder for us, human being. Hope we can take a lesson from this.

7 thoughts on “Bullying–Words can kill

    schildan10 said:
    June 30, 2012 at 1:42 PM

    I think the only solution to this problem is Jesus’ command to “love your enemies.” Loving the people who love us is not good enough. We have to love the people in the other peer groups, even if they hate us.

      hifzan shafiee responded:
      July 1, 2012 at 3:37 PM

      So sweet. Hope the command can be translated to action.


    schildan10 said:
    July 2, 2012 at 3:02 AM

    I think maybe you’re starting to agree with me on this 🙂

      hifzan shafiee responded:
      July 3, 2012 at 9:12 AM

      I agree, but I don’t think it can works. Some people can understand that, but a large group can’t even grasp the idea of “love the enemy”.

    schildan10 said:
    July 3, 2012 at 3:36 PM

    You are right that a large group can’t grasp the idea. Jesus preached this to large groups and it went right over their heads. But as an individual I have a responsibility to do it anyway. I have to love my enemies, even if no one else does.

    I believe, that by God’s power, it is possible for those who repent to love their enemies. They may never be the majority, but that doesn’t matter.

      hifzan shafiee responded:
      July 3, 2012 at 4:50 PM

      Even the same verse, I do think your interpretation and my interpretation is totally different.

    schildan10 said:
    July 4, 2012 at 1:30 AM

    “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[d] says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:

    “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
    if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
    In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”[e]
    21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:18-21)

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